Ok look guys, just because "we go back on the market" or just got out of a relationship does not mean in any shape or form we all of the sudden want to hook up with you, or receive a thousand text messages from our ex-boyfriends "boy" at midnight. Get it through your heads....just because we are out of a relationship doesn't mean we want to date everything that crosses our paths. I have been PERFECTLY content spending quality yes I'll say it again QUALITY time with my girl friends. Dressing up, riding bikes, trips to NFL games, wine tastings, sushi, movies, working out, volleyball...We don't need men to have a good time, especially after a break up.. geeze give us a minute to breath. AHHHHHHHH!
It's hard enough dealing with a break up. I don't need my ex's "boy" sending me 8 text because you are drunk or what did he say? "I'm kinnda lonely right now! But if you every feel freaky I can put some things on you..." OMG are you for real??? A) you are disgusting, you are suppose to be my ex's "friend/boy" B) it's after midnight and I have to wake up at 0430 and C) how do you know I haven't found someone to cuddle with already hmmmpfttt. and OMG really??
It got worse. He went on to text "you turn me on holla ok!" "I think I could so take your mind off him in so many ways!" Why do you guys think we need another man/boy to "take our minds off the ex".. really? That's what my Awesome girl friends and mom are for...If I choose to go to meet a great guy and hang out with him on occasion it's because I want to and I am interested in him and what he has to say, not because I need some other guy to make me forget about my ex. This shit takes time..Let me breath and go at my own pace. Whatever pace that is.. I haven't quite figured that out, but as HB says "One day at a time".
Back to the text.. now after I didn't respond he texted "hey please respond to me! Don't make me feel stupid! He was talking to some loser tonight I couldn't help but think how much better you are!"
WOW. really? don't make you feel stupid..that is not my job or what? did you expect me to text you back and say oh yes baby, i want you too.. PLEASE. I can actually find and meet nice quality men on my own AAAHHHH! shocking I know. But you? really? This may come off a little harsh, but I really don't need your baggage and ohhh there is A LOT OF IT!! But you know what.. for your sake and because I do have some respect left for my ex I won't call you out on your SHIT. your welcome. ;) And another thing is there no such thing as "Man Code" anymore?? We have a code, isn't there some "code" you guys follow? Or are we girls all "fair game" after a break up? I guess the morality of men is running out, what a shame.
You know, I try really hard too not to cry or get all emotional. For the most part I think we hold it together pretty well, that is in certain aspects of our lives like at work, in front of people who think I'm stronger than I really am, or on a date. I can and have gone days without crying or playing the impossible game of "what if's".. I try hard to be strong not only for my fellow girl friends, but for the sanity of myself. If I allowed myself to sit at home day after day watching Lifetime movies and eating the whole house I - I - I don't even want to think about the nightmare. NO! We are not pitiful little girls anymore, I am not that pathetic teenager whose boyfriend broke my heart and now my whole world is crashing down around me - PLEASE, I have more important things to worry about. Don't get me wrong I have my "moments of weakness" but that's exactly what they are moments. Over the course of ohhh I would say 10 - 15 years I have been able to decrease my crying rate from days to mere minutes. :) GOOD JOB ME. I think the best advice I have found that works for me is from Dora on Finding Nemo, "Just Keep Swimming". I have to stay busy!!! It's the down time that'll kill ya. The time at night when you're making dinner and realize it's just for you and end up feeding the rest to the dogs or in my case now I have a yummy lunch already prepared for tomorrow. Or after volleyball showering by yourself and missing some sand on my leg because you're not there to help me. Or at night on the couch watching Sons cuddling with my Dogs instead of being in his arms. And the worse is going to bed in a really big bed with just me, 2 dogs, and sometimes up to 2 cats.. uggg. So now that I have totally depressed all of you WAKE UP and GET BACK OUT THERE!!! There is a huge plethora of a world out there to experience, I don't want to miss any opportunities of my next adventure.
I'm not saying if I meet a nice guy along my adventure and choose to spend more time with him then others that's a bad thing either. I am saying after a break up though you must keep your options opened. I have taken off the blinders and I am trying to view the whole world..just not what is put, thrown, or texted at me in the middle of the night. Until next time, Prost.
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